Why did the Personal Trainer hire a Personal Trainer?

Roswell, GA Personal Training

Why did the Personal Trainer hire a Personal Trainer?

As professional Personal trainer, business owner, and husband to be at the time, I found myself needing an extra push.  It always seems as if there are not enough hours in the day.  I pride myself on being a very disciplined person when it comes to living a healthy and active lifestyle.  I feel like I have to be that way.  My goal is to always find a way to inspire my clients, whether its through words that I use to encourage them, the actions that I take, or the way that I take care of my own body.  At the end of the day my body is the representation of the lifestyle that I lead and a reflection of my body of work.  Can having your body on display to the public be a lot of pressure to maintain an in shape physique?  Absolutely!  I can’t speak for other trainers, but I think this type of pressure is self induced on my end.

 

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The Real reason why I hired a Personal trainer

Although most people would agree that being in shape comes with the territory in my profession, the real reason why I decided to hire a Personal Trainer was because being in very good shape wasn’t good enough.  I wanted to be in perfect shape… or as close to perfect as can be.   There was something or someone that I wanted to be “perfect” for, so my motivation was pretty high.  Like most people, time is a factor for me because of all of my responsibilities.   And although I am extremely committed to varying the workouts of the clients that I work with, I found that I needed to hit the refresh button for my own  workouts.

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Recalling on lessons learned from childhood

As a child, I gravitated towards athletics because like most children, I enjoyed playing.  Whether it was freeze tag, shooting marbles, playing skelly (NY people know what I’m talking about) or football, it didn’t matter what it was, I wanted to play the game!  Sometimes you win, and sometimes you lose, but you play to win the game.   So it wasn’t until very long until I jumped into organized sports.  I played basketball, football and track.  In playing all of those sports, I had  a lot of coaches who poured what they knew into me.  The biggest things that I learned from my coaches as a youth were to remain focused despite your external circumstances, to push towards your goals no matter what your internal feelings are, and that I was capable of doing more than I could ever imagine.  Those are three things that we all can use to progress further in our daily lives, no matter the goal.   The great coaches I had were Coach Mike James,  Coach Speedy, Coach Tony, Coach Moore, and Coach Riley.  Those guys motivated me to do things that I never knew to be possible in my finite thinking.   During those childhood days when I didn’t know what a Personal Trainer or a Motivator was, they were my trainers.  They were training Spirit, Body and Mind.

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Leave my pride at the door

Okay, so I have to admit, when I was deliberating on whether or not I would hire a trainer my pride and ego was a big roadblock for me.  I figured, hey I’ve been on TV , radio, I’ve written books  and I’ve trained thousands of people to lead healthy and active lifestyles why should I hire a trainer?  I was really concerned about how people would view me.  I didn’t want the the perception of how people viewed me to change.  I thought to myself, “If people caught wind that I was being trained by another trainer, than I would lose the respect of my clients.”  It’s crazy how our inner dialogue can be self defeating sometimes.  At that point, I had to go back to one of the lessons that I learned as a child – Push towards your goals no matter what your internal feelings are.   At that point it became clear that I didn’t need to push for yards:  I needed to scrap for inches.  That I wasn’t starting from scratch, but that I needed an extra 1% effort to get me to where I needed to go.   There is much to be said about being able to push yourself towards your goals.  I truly believe that it also helps to have someone that can be a motivation to you outside of yourself.    I knew where I wanted to go.  My pride was too heavy, so I dropped it down.   So what were my goals and where was I going?

 

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The perfect love

The driving force or what I like to call my big “Why” for why I hired a trainer was because of my wife Danay.  I didn’t want to be great.  I wanted to be perfect.  I wanted to give my wife my best me.   Through the Fit2DMax Bridal Fitness program I run into mainly brides who want to fit their wedding dresses just right.  Even when Danay and I trained together, we worked out so  that she could feel good about in fitting that dress for our wedding.  My mother in law also jumped in on the fun and worked out with us as well, and we were determined to make our wedding a timeless event that we would have fond memories of.    Very similar to women who want their dress to fit right, men want to have that suit that fits them perfectly.  We want the broad shoulders, the V shaped back, the strong arms and the tapered waist to show through the suit.   I wanted to be my wife’s Knight in shining armor.  In this case, the armor was a charcoal wedding tuxedo.   When that vision of what I wanted to be for my wife became clear, a biblical scripture came up in my mind.

 

1 Corinthians 13:4  Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

At that point, there was nothing left to do but to make the call.  My pride could no longer stand in the way.

They call him Coach

So I decided to call one of the best trainers that I know.  My brother from another mother Coach Leander Murphy.  Coach Murph is a Sports Performance coach in the Alpharetta area.   Shout out to Coach Murphy by the way.  I reached out to him because he is highly reputable.  We’ve both worked with high level athletes as well as people who are beginning their wellness journey, and we share a lot of the same fitness  philosophies.  Coach Murphy lives a lifestyle of wellness, and is as strong as an Ox. When you hire a trainer, it’s very important that you choose someone who you respect.  I respect him tremendously and he is truly one of my best friends.   I mentioned the best friend thing because I don’t just trust anyone with my body because it’s my livelihood and my life.  At the end of the day, I knew that I could trust him to get the most out of my body without hurting it.

So just like that, I’m whipping through Atlanta on I-75 via College Park all the way up to Alpharetta to train with my buddy Coach Murph.  We were doing things that I haven’t done in a while, things that I love, but got away from like box jumps, tire flips, dynamic drills, sprints with weighted sleds and Olympic lifts.   Training with Coach Murphy was a valuable experience for these reasons.

1.  It increased the level of empathy that I had for my clients.  Trying to make a training session when you have appointments all over the place can be tough.  It allowed me to be more encouraging if clients came late to sessions due to their busy work load.  Flipping the script and becoming the client has done wonders for how I interact with them and how I train the Fit2DMax team on how to offer a better service to our clients.

2. Although I push myself harder than most, it was key to have Coach Murph pushing me when I reached moments of weakness and thought that I couldn’t push anymore.  Like all great trainers do, Coach Murph had a bigger vision of me, than I had of me.  If I was pushing up to 95% then Coach Murph TYGTAL’ed me which is an acronym for Take Your Game To Another Level.  That extra 5% is something that can often make you or break you.  We all need to be at 100%.  How you get there is all up to you.

3.  Great trainers create an environment that generates success.  Driving up to those sessions, so many times I was thinking about all the fires I had to put out and all of the problems I had to solve.  When I walked through those doors, it was time to work and as the old spiritual says, “Lay my burdens down”.  My goal was again, to be the best that I can be for Danay.  It is all about your environment at the end of the day.   You should always create or inject yourself into a successful environment and a winning culture. Someone once told me that if you want to be a thoroughbred that you have to surround yourself around thoroughbreds.

After all, the jumping, the sprinting, the lifting and sweating, and what were the results? Our Wedding in Roswell, GA!   See below:

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The reason why I wrote this post was because I wanted to be transparent with you and share a little bit about my life.   The moral of the story is that everyone can use a little push sometimes.  I want to thank Coach Murphy for being to push that I needed.  If you are looking for a Sports Performance Coach you can find Coach Murph at coachmurphy@gmail.com.  If you are looking for a weight loss specialist or someone to get you into the best shape of your life, the Team at Fit2DMax Roswell will always be here to help you with your fitness and wellness needs.

 

 

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